Anyone
expecting this book to be a tell-all of one of the greatest rock groups of
all time will be sorely disappointed. This is not tabloid fodder. It is
not a he-said/she-said tale filled with accusations and unfounded
theories. Yes, there are some revealing moments from behind the scenes of
the multi-platinum rock legends, and there are a few statements that could
be taken as controversial. But the boys in the band are secondary players.
They are the background material to Chuck's life, and his constant fear of
being outed in an industry that wasn't - and in some cases, still isn't -
forgiving or understanding.
From his beginnings in Chicago, being
raised in a strict Catholic Italian household, to the beginnings of Styx,
to his struggles with personal demons, Chuck is eloquent and frank about
his life. He speaks with love about starting Trade Winds with his brother
and Dennis back in their early teens, and chronicles the development of
his musical career to the pinnacle it is now. He not only covers music,
but the education he received at the hands of the nuns in Catholic school.
His focus in this book is not on music, although it is a constant theme
through the story. He lets us in on the secrets of his family - John's
drinking, his sister's denial of his sexuality, his mother's constant
smothering, and his father's early demise, at which I choked back a tear
for the man who would never know that his sons became world class
musicians.
He talks at length about his self discovery; about how
hard it was for him to accept himself as gay, and how he fought to
suppress his true self. He tells us of the early days of AIDS, and how,
since there was little known about the disease, those that contracted it
just sat around and waited to die. He educates us and tells us that there
is hope out there.
We ride along with him on this journey, and we
experience what he does. I nearly wept with joy when he finally revealed
himself to the boys and was accepted. I cringed at some of the ignorance
that he experienced. His description of John's decline after the band's
first break up in 1984 is heart wrenching, especially for those of us that
know the sad ending to John's story. His downward spiral lasted for twelve
years, despite the interventions and two stints in rehab. Reading of
Chuck's resigned acceptance that he could no longer help John, and his
subsequent distance from his twin brother brings home the importance of
family, but more importantly, the importance of self help as well. His
regret that he wasn't there when his brother passed in 1996 comes through
loud and clear.
Meanwhile, the legend that was Styx refused to
die. Two reunions and several albums ensured their place in history.
Panozzo remained in the closet the entire time, terrified that his secret
could threaten the career that he had worked so hard to establish, and the
careers of those around him. In 1991 Panozzo was diagnosed as HIV
positive, and even then he hid his secret from the band and the world
until the late Nineties, when he was diagnosed with full-blown AIDS. He
holds nothing back when talking about the ravages of the disease on his
body, mind and spirit. He speaks with frankness about the ignorance of the
world in general, and how sometimes the hardest thing in the world is to
let someone go.
When Panozzo speaks about his decision to finally
come out publicly, you just want to cheer. His courage is infectious. His
choice to come out and become a spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign
was a wonderful gesture and tribute to those he'd lost in life.
He
also speaks frankly about love - how hard it was for him to find it, and
how he wasn't sure he actually COULD love someone in his newfound life,
after almost sixty years of having to only worry about himself and his
family. But when he finally does meet that person who would become his
partner, you feel the sparks fly right off the page. And the readers can
sympathize with his reluctance to relocate from his childhood home to the
sunny shores of Miami. BUT, we also experience his joy when he finally
finds a place of acceptance and a supportive community.
His time
with Styx is given its due attention - after all, as a co-founder and the
only original member left from the days of Trade Winds, it was a huge part
of his life. But, what fans might not have known, is his stint in
parochial school to become a priest, and his subsequent education to get
his teachers degree. I also did not know that Chuck is an artist, and his
artwork was the cover for The Grand Illusion (the 30th anniversary of
which is coming this July 7). Little gems of knowledge like that pop up
throughout his story, and by the end, you feel like you've not only run a
marathon of emotions, but you feel like you've found a friend.
Chuck recently graced us with his presence at Styxfest in
Orillia, Ontario. He was good enough to sit and speak with us about the
book, and answer any questions we might have had, regardless of the
subject. He spoke at length about the books content, but his parting
comment, what he left us with, was the best lesson anyone could learn in
life. "We're all human. Once we start labeling people as gay, straight,
black or white, we lose our humanity." What a profound, and true,
statement.
For anyone who's a fan of Styx, music fans in general
or even just those who are looking for a good read, it's a must for your
bookshelf. This book not only tells the story of one courageous man, it
teaches us about love, guidance, and tolerance. It's not loud, it's not
preachy. Like all of Chuck's accomplishments, it's a work of
art. |